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Teaching Responsibility Through Simplicity and Example

By: Terra Nova Jacques

Many parents find themselves repeating the same phrase “Please clean up your room!” and wondering why it seems like such a daily battle. The truth is, our children learn more from what they see us do than from what we say. They are constantly observing how we manage our own surroundings, how we handle clutter, and how we respond to mess. If we’re feeling overwhelmed by too many things or struggling to keep our own spaces organized, our children will often mirror that energy. They learn from the environment we create and not just from the instructions we give. Creating a tidy, functional home doesn’t mean striving for perfection. It means having systems in place that make life feel simpler, calmer, and more predictable. When our homes are decluttered and each item has a designated space, children can more easily take part in caring for the home. They begin to understand where things belong, and they gain confidence in helping maintain those spaces.

Start small, one shelf, one toy bin, one area at a time. Involve your children in the process. Make it fun and rewarding, not overwhelming. Label containers with pictures or words, keep frequently used items within their reach, and celebrate their efforts. The goal isn’t a spotless house, it’s teaching your children life skills that build responsibility, confidence, and pride in their surroundings.

When we lead by example, children naturally follow. They feel what we feel calm, when the space is calm, stress when the space feels chaotic. By taking time to simplify, declutter, and create systems that work for the whole family, we’re nurturing a sense of order and emotional balance for everyone under our roof.

At Terra Nova’s Healing Homes, I help Campbell River families declutter, simplify, and create easy-to-follow systems that support every member of the household. Including the little ones. Together, we can make your home a place where peace and productivity naturally flow.